我的孩子適合讀私校嗎？

在決定要不要讓孩子讀私校，或是選擇讀哪一所私校的當口，父母要先問問自己四個問題。

解決雙薪家庭的安親問題？避免國中霸凌問題？追求別於體制內的課程設計？嚮往精實的英語教學？每個孩子讀私校的理由不同。

了解自己的問題及需求，是選校的第一步，有助於從多所私校中找尋適合的目標學校。但再怎麼熱門的私校，每年都還是有不適應的學生轉出來，因此要有心理準備的是：你也有可能為了解決簡單的問題，衍生出更多的複雜問題。

三年前，劉小姐考慮上下班時間及方便接送，將孩子送至台北市區一所費用平民的私小。後來她發現，學校的學習方式非常填鴨，孩子從小一就在考試與背誦中度過每一天；段考前沒有下課，因為老師要幫忙孩子複習。

更嚴重的是，學校董事會易主後，經營商業化，讓外面補習班在假日進學校開才藝課，招收外校學生。兩年前學校成立雙語班，師資和課程就直接引進美語補習班現成的。

「我只考慮到時間能不能配合？接送方不方便？忽略了學校教學和教育方式，」劉小姐反省。

每個家庭都因著教育理念與教養路線的不同，對教育有不一樣的「想望」。因為孩子在學校的時間長，有時候選校不單純只是選擇學習樣態，更是在選擇家庭生活價值。

許多家長是擔心霸凌問題而將孩子往私校送，但是「家庭同質性高，每個家庭都『供得起』，物質欲望成為理所當然，」劉小姐說，他兒子就讀的班級，每次學生生日，家長就買禮物和蛋糕送全班同學。她並不贊同這種做法，也沒有跟隨，「但是當你選擇不跟著一起做，就要花很多時間和孩子溝通，想別的折衷方式。」

或許父母可以想想，當孩子班上有一半以上的家長開進口車，你的是國產車時；當很多孩子在比他們家三棟房子分別坐落於哪些國家，你家還在為三十坪小屋付房貸時，會不會有壓力？

與你價值不符的學校文化，會逼著你逐漸變成一個自己也不喜歡的、矛盾的父母。

問題三：

孩子的特質適合嗎？

長期從事青少年及兒童諮商工作、芯福里情緒教育推廣協會理事長楊俐容指出，每個孩子適合的學校不同，就算是同一家庭的手足，都不見得能一體適用。

她建議從孩子的學習態度觀察，若孩子對學習興趣高昂，勇於接受挑戰，學校給的壓力會轉為學習能量；反之，若孩子總是提不起勁學習、抗壓性低，想要藉著送到功課壓力大的學校試圖改變，反而適得其反，讓孩子更排斥學習。

私校的學習量大、節奏快，每個學習都求速成績效，不是所有孩子都能適應。很多孩子不是學不會，只是需要慢一點的學習步調，或是開竅的時間晚一點。

但是私校很難等待學習步調不同的孩子，可能透過更多的反覆練習與考試，逼孩子記起來。也有積極的私校會請父母幫孩子請家教、送孩子去補習，或是請他直接轉學。

問題四：

有哪些學校可以選擇？

同樣是私校，卻有多元異質的風格：傳統要求升學的、貴族精英的、新興訴求國際雙語的、宗教立學的、另類理念的。即使同樣是佛教學校，花蓮慈濟中學、南投普台中學以及雲林福智中學也有截然不同的氛圍。

家長在選擇之前，需認清自己要的是什麼，才可能在考量學校風格、個人需求、家庭價值觀、交通接送等因素後，圈出想要的目標學校。

必要行動：

親自到學校參觀了解

然而究竟要不要讓孩子去讀，還是要先去學校看過再決定。

考慮的過程不宜太過倉促，建議最好要有三個月以上的時間觀察目標學校，去聽招生說明會、打電話跟學校聯繫參觀，並和家人討論。

如果選的是國中，請務必跟孩子討論，對青少年來說，要不要讀私中？念什麼風格的私中？有時候家長想的無法算數，要看孩子的意願與接受度。

從「孩子的學習特質」著手，加權父母最重視的擇校因素，並搭配孩子的就讀意願，比較容易找出一所親子皆大歡喜的學校，也比較可能回答「我的孩子適合讀私校嗎？」這個大哉問。

最後，無論要不要念私校？念哪一所私校？「父母只是去選擇面對不同的問題而已，」奧林文化總編輯謝淑美提醒，當孩子無法適應學校生活時，父母都應具備「解決孩子不同問題」的勇氣與智慧。

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包含檔案: 212 檔案
使用記憶體: 1423960 bytes

額外資訊

包含檔案: 212 檔案

使用記憶體: 1423960 bytes

計時
XOOPS 使用 0.115 秒來載入。
XOOPS Boot 使用 0.014 秒來載入。
Module init 使用 0.007 秒來載入。
XOOPS output init 使用 0.042 秒來載入。
Module display 使用 0.021 秒來載入。
Page rendering 使用 0.031 秒來載入。

計時

XOOPS 使用 0.115 秒來載入。

XOOPS Boot 使用 0.014 秒來載入。

Module init 使用 0.007 秒來載入。

XOOPS output init 使用 0.042 秒來載入。

Module display 使用 0.021 秒來載入。

Page rendering 使用 0.031 秒來載入。

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